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I haven't cut in over a week, which is the longest I have gone in over two years! I normally have terrible depressing weeks, but this week was so wonderful and I opened up and smiled. I held hands with my best friend and laid my head on him and feel so close to him and he makes me blush by calling me pretty and makes me smile and none of that would've happened without opening up and smiling and being brave. You helped me so much and I feel my life is going to get better. Thank you so much. (:

First off, congrats! :D That is awesome and am very proud of you!

Secondly: awwww :3 Sounds very cute and I am glad you were able to have such a great experience with your friend.

Thank you for sending us this! A good dose of positivity is great and I am really happy to hear you are doing well.

~Devin

What if i have an infection,and i don't go to the doctor?

Lets go for the worst case:
You can get a blood poisoning and die.
-chi

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Chi is wrong and out of line here.

You probably don’t have to worry about things such as septicaemia unless you are just unlucky and/or have seriously gotten into some unclean things.

What you should do is make sure you keep the wound clean. Flush the wound for dirt, wash it with peroxide or betadine, and then wrap it up with clean bandaging. Change it every few hours and replace with clean (preferably sterile) wrappings.

If the wound is minorlly infected, if you keep at this your body is awesome and will fight off the infection naturally. If you have a weakened/compromised immune system, are sick, or suffering from any other major conditions, then you’ll be able to fight of the infections.

However, I’d suggest that you wash out the wound with peroxide or betadine every few hours, rather than just twice a day.

The next step is to buy an antibiotic cream. Or find one about the house. Most first aid kits have them and apply as directed on the bottle/tube.

However, if you notice any odd colouration (especially green), extreme pain, terrible/pungent/down right weird smell, or anything that is just very /wrong/ then you have no choice and NEED to see a doctor.

~Devin

———- This is why i wrote “worst case” -Chi
i'm not good at talking to people- i can do it, it's just really not my forte. so this easter was great for me, i spent a lot of time alone, recharging, only talking to people i'm really comfortable with, i loved it. but i've been back at school now less than a day and i am utterly exhausted. so many people, and so much conversation... but i've never been this bad before. i don't know if it's because of the holidays but i'm just completely wiped out. does this sound reasonable-ish, or is it odd?

Well i know this feeling. I can really relate.
When i was in a bad time and i missed lots of school, i felt very refreshing during my home-time and really really exhausted when school started again.
Maybe try keeping you a bit busy with school. Do some stuff so the schoolstuff wont crash on you when you come back :)
-chi

I wasnt asking for how to starve.... I was wondering how you get past the sick/pit in your stomach after you havnent eaten... so that I can eat. I end up getting sick after not eating for 6-8+ hours and it makes me feel so sick that I dont want to eat... but i know I have to but i'm just afraid i'll hurl... :( I need help with eating.

How to avoid that?
Eat every 3 hours. At least some little snacks. Not eating over 6-8 hours is just not a good idea so dont take pauses of 6 hours or more, take some of 2-3 hours.
If you need help with eating talk to an adult and get help.
-chi

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Try eating simple foods such as rice or veggies or a fruit, and in small amounts. If you snack on small things all day at regular intervals, then you’ll avoid this sickness and it is theorised that it is much better to eat simple tinyish meals through out the day.

Stick to things that you enjoy though. Don’t force yourself to eat something you don’t particularly like. So if you are a big fan of bananas but hate broccoli (though how can anybody hate broccoli :l ) then eat the banana. Simple foods are the best, so stick to them. 

Oh, also applesauce and yogurts are good if you are having a hard time keeping food down.

~Devin

Not telling you guys how to starve. Sorry.
Try counselling, it helps.

my sister is really depressed she doesn't eat and she doesn't sleep should i take her to the hospital?

At first talk to your parents, and maybe have a talk with her. Take it slow. Forcing her to the hospital wont help much, she really needa to understand by herself that she needs help.
Maybe suggest her to go with her to a counsillor or therapist…
Good luck!

How i can know did i got an infection? I tried not to cut but i did and it was really deep,but now my cuts look really strange they have some purple colour and something yellow i don't know how to explain

look for redness ringing the injury, yellow or green scabs or pus, disproportionate pain and slowness to heal.
If so, please go to the doctor.
Get soon well ♥

This may seem stupid... but I feel so alone. I created a blog on hopes of feeling more like I belonged but I still feel like I don't. All because I eraser burn. I just wish I had someone to relate to.... and could help people like me through my blog

I dont see the question, so…
… no! The reason why you “dont belong” to anything is really really not because of the way you do harm to yourself. Please dont even think that!
The way you can get into contact over your blog is by getting active and drawing some attention to your blog.
For example: someone who does music wont get into contact with other musicans if he doesnt share his thoughts and tries to get into contact with other musicans.
If you stay quiet on your blog and dont try to get into contact with other people, less will notice you.
Feel free to message me on my personal blog (deafcolors) i’d like to get to know you :)
-chi

I just wanted to say: I was really upset and lonely and feeling depressed the other night. I was texting my boyfriend telling him how I was feeling, and I fell asleep. He calls me, freaking out, thinking that I hurt myself, and I reassured him that I didn't, but realized that I didn't even think about cutting at all! For the first time in years, not only did I not want to cut when I was upset, the thought didn't even cross my mind. I didn't even get the feeling. Recovery is so possible!! :D

Yeay!

I'll be a year clean on the 27th. I want to be happy about it. But, I feel like I shouldn't be proud of it because I think that I should never have started cutting in the first place so I shouldn't be proud for stopping. It makes me want to relapse. Do you have any advice on how I can stop thinking about it like that?

I understand that sentiment, but you really should be proud of yourself. Using a vice… okay, is a bad thing in and of itself, yes, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that you over came them. Be proud of all your achievements, big and small. It’s something you worked for and put a lot of effort into.

Don’t harm yourself simply becuase you started harming yourself. It’s a bit illogical, yes? It’s really something that simply has to be fought through it. I am sure that you know it is a tad silly to do the thing you are working not to do simply becuase you believe you were mistaken in doing it in the first place. 

Work on doing something else, distract yourself, and keep always, constantly reminding yourself that staying clean of self harm is awesome. It’s always awesome, no matter what.

~Devin

I was getting better, but now it all just starts again. I feel that all the emotions are building up inside of me and I can't control them. I'm cutting almost every night. My parents know I used to selfharm (scars are difficult to hide) but I can't tell them I started again. I don't know what to do. I know what I do is wrong and that I have to stop. But I can't. I don't know wheter I should get help or just keep trying or tell my parents or what. I'm just afraid I'll mess up my future forever.

I think it’s a good thing your parents already know about your past, that way you don’t have to go through the utter terrifying awkwardness of telling them about these scary things. They already know, and if they have supported you in the past, they will support you now. By not reaching out and getting help, you are garunteeing the fact that you will simply get worse and worse and cause more problems. Dealing with the issues before they become really huge is very important. You need to stay on top of your illness and self harm. As it is, you’ve let it slide to the point where you simply can not ignore it.

Reach out, telling your parents you need help again, is NOT going to mess up your future. It’s only going to make sure you HAVE a good future. Letting things spiral out of control will be the thing that ruins your dreams, not getting help.

~Devin

"Get off the scale! I have yet to see a scale that can tell you how enchanting your eyes are. I have yet to see a scale that can show you how wonderful your hair looks when the sun shines its glorious rays on it. I have yet to see a scale that can thank you for your compassion, sense of humor, and contagious smile. Get off the scale because I have yet to see one that can admire you for your perseverance when challenged in life."
 Steve Maraboli (via panda-in-recovery)

(Source: workinprogress225, via you-are-not-your-illness)

I haven't cut in two months, but I've been biting and bruising myself nonstop. My family doesn't realize it's self harm, mainly because I've always been clumsy. It doesn't provide anything anymore and I want to go back to cutting, but I can't. It's too obvious.

But bruising amd biting isnt the way you should stop cutting. I know its self harm, but stopping one way of sh by using an other one is just paradox.
You shouldnt go back to cutting, talk to your parents, explain them that you need their help and professional help. If they dont think bruising amd biting is self harm, well- im sure you still need help with coping. We have a “how to tell your parents” in our faq… get help, you deserve it.

The only reason I haven't cut in a couple months is the fact that it stopped doing anything for me. This wouldn't be so bad if I had actually found something else to do to calm me down. Instead now I just kind of spend a couple hours curled up and crying until I fall asleep or I have to get up and deal with something. I hate not having any kind of real coping method because at least after I cut I'd calm down and stop feeling like shit.

Then maybe look at our alternative list and maybe think about starting a new Hobby? :)
If you think its stupid that you dont have a new coping method, then you already know what you have to do.

The past year and a half I have been going through a really bad time I got into self harm and couldn't stop I got into smoking which I do everyday now...when I was 14 I was raped and since then I haven't been myself I'm not saying I'm going to be myself cause after that no one would but I'm struggling to now and I don't know how to deal with it I'm getting in to drugs and the wrong people someone tell me what I can do!!

What I understood from that statement is that you thought you could deal and adjust but now it’s getting harder and that is why you should get help. It sounds like you’re handling a lot of things and you need someone to help you sort it out in real time because we can give advice but we are not equipped to diagnose and treat you though you’re welcome to check out our faq and help pages of course!

Let me address this right now: "I haven’t been myself I’m not saying I’m going to be myself cause after that no one would but I’m struggling to now"

I understand your sentiment. It is perfectly normal and acceptable, to think that way but it is not true. Of course the event changed you. Of course it will shape who you are for the rest of your life. Of course you have a right to be traumatized. But it is not true that you will never feel okay. You will realize, in the course of healing, that you are so much more than your abuse. You are so much bigger than your abuser. It might not seem like it now, but if you just get help, I believe that it is entirely possible to live “normally”, come to terms with what happened and manage your emotions. I cannot say definite things with how it works because I myself still need therapy but I am accepting that it is not my fault and telling myself that I will no longer let the event rule my conscious and subconscious and I think that that was something that helped me calm down and seriously recover.

-Melody

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