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I think that if there is anyone that is causing you to hurt yourself that you should distance yourself from them, because its better in the long run. You don’t want to keep putting yourself in an emotionally compromising situation.
But I don’t know the exact situation so I would be hesitant in following my advice. - Adrienne
I think that when your depression is already escalating due to something else in your life that it’s going to be a lot easier to trigger the symptoms, like crying spells. - Adrienne
I think that it is definitely wise to wait until you are comfortable talking about these things with a person before you pour your heart out to them, so don’t feel bad for hesitating.
If you want to test the waters, maybe mention some of the things that have happened that aren’t necessarily as emotional or serious as things about hurting yourself. tell them about the situation and how you felt, and see how they respond. If they respond really negatively and are critical or mean, you probably don’t want to talk to them about the self harm and more intense mental health stuff. If they are sympathetic and supportive, you could probably tell them about those things :) - Adrienne
I really think you guys need to have some serious words with the boyfriend. In these situations, I fully support parents drawing lines, and in this case, a line really needs to be drawn.
First, calmly explain to him about his girlfriend’s possible developing ED, then explain to him how he can’t say things that will cause distress and disordered eating or self harm. At some point, sit them both down and explain to each other the situation, especially if the boyfriend keeps going and not doing what you’ve asked. If he still refuses and keeps encouraging negativity… then the final line needs to be crossed: ban them from going out.
Eventually, given time, prompting, and education, your sister will see how negative this boy is in her life.
A burn is the destruction of several layers of skin via extreme temperature, radiation, electricity, chemical, or friction. The amount of layers damaged determines the degree of the burn. And of course the size factors into the severity, too. To put it simply, a burn is just the break down of the protein structures that form a cell. When these cells fall apart, the tissue does too.
As for healing, the body tries to knit it together just like any other wound. The edges of the wound contract, and the layers of skin are built up layer by layer from the bottom up. A first degree and sometimes a second degree burn will form blisters and a watery liquid will form on top of the wound. This blister will help the burn heal faster.
As a personal note, I find that burns scab over differently than cuts. The colour and texture is different, and the deeper the burn, the worse the the scab will look.
And here is a diagramme of burn types
Scar fading creams are not going to work for white or for atrophied scars. For that you are going to have to look for a specific type treatment meant to fill in your scars.
I have no idea what vk is? But if you try bio-oil, I think that may work better than just vitamin e lotion. But, a month may be enough time to make at least a little bit of a difference. Generally it takes a few months, but it will be something at least.
I really hope you are safe and okay. Other than I really encourage you to reach out and get help. I’m glad you’ve already talked to one friend about all this, keep going and keep talking to more people.
As a legal adult, you can do a lot of things yourself when it comes to getting help. You don’t really need to go through as many loops and can go see a doctor or therapist yourself with no hassle so I implore you to do so.
I would also suggest that you perhaps take up some sort of self defence or martial arts, perhaps? Learning how to defend yourself may help prevent any more of these terrible things, and just the fact that you know you can defend yourself can be a great confidence boost and help you relieve stress, tension, and all around feeling better.
I’m sorry I can’t say more than that. I really do hope you are okay and talk to somebody soon.
Thank you! :D
Are you okay and safe? The first thing you should do after you self harm is to take care of your injuries. That means wash, disinfect, and bandage them properly.
Next, try and soothe and relax yourself. Either game, read, jog, paint, it doesn’t matter what methods you use, what matters is that you simply try. I would strongly suggest you contact a friend or family member and talk. About anything really. You don’t have to talk about what happened, but often times just simple socialisation can improve a situation and be relaxing.
And, of course, you need to figure out if you want to get better or not. That is a very important step that you must take. It will probably be the hardest step, but also the most crucial.
Oh my goodness! :D That is very very fabulous! Congrats and I am sure you’ll quickly make it to a full year before you even realise it.
That’s great! :D I am very proud of you and am so happy that things are going so well for you. :D
You should put the sharpener somewhere else or put it somewhere hard to get so that you don’t think about it as much, first off. Even on a high shelf will do :)
I think its unlikely that he actually knows how to properly handle the situation. I think that you should just leave the conversation at, “You really don’t understand” and getting help from someone more likely to get it.
one of the things that I’ve learned this year is that I shouldn’t have to justify who I am and the things that I experience when someone is obviously not getting it or listening or caring. Those aren’t important people. Whats important is finding those who you don’t have to justify yourself to and who you can just be yourself around.
For now, just try to distract yourself with things that make you really happy, like a game or a movie or music. Or take some time to relax, but give yourself some you time to relax and think about something else for a little bit. - Adrienne