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It sounds like you are having hallucinations. In that case PLEASE SEE A DOCTOR IMMEDIATELY. That is a SERIOUS medical issue and that needs to be seen by A PROFESSIONAL.
If he doesn’t like you now then he doesn’t like you.
End of story.
Don’t go about changing yourself just to please somebody else. Humans are fickle anyways.
The only important thing is that you focus on getting better and being who YOU want to be. Relationships and people come and go, so don’t tear yourself up over the possibility that one silly boy may like you. AND DO NOT allow yourself to regress in your progress over fickle affections that may not even last.
What should you do? I’d just shrug, go “eh” and move forwards, I suggest you do something similar.
Well, just make sure you care for the injury. Clean, disinfect, then wrap it up with some clean bandages.
Then, I dunno, grab some tea and move on with things? If you need an excuse, perhaps you can say you tried to grab a knife and slipped? Or you broke a glass?
I don’t know your boyfriend so I can’t have any clue as to his reactions to a re/lapse/slip.
As to what you should do?
Well, read this
then talk to your boyfriend about what happened. Be honest. Don’t hide it. Don’t brush it under the table. DON’T LIE about it and why. Just be open and honest.
Also, take things day by day. Don’t look at it as every day you are closer to slipping, rather every day is another day you successfully staved off the urges. Every day is another day you won. This is not a death march, you are not slowly meandering down the path to a precieved end or failure. If you do end up slipping, then you’ve simply had a bad day, a bump in the road, but then you continue along your way with perhaps a bit more knowledge about why it happened and how to prevent it from occurring again.
2/2 He says that i should let them live their life without saying anything. but they drink and fuck everywhere and forgot that they actually have a 5 year old son. my dad said “we didn’t drink and do drugs when you were a child, and now look what you have become anyway.” i feel so lost and i dont know what to do the house is a mess. i am tempted to kill myself and my little brother so he doesnt have to grow up with them. but i wont do it but i still have these thoughts…
no to mention that i found a negative pregnancy test from my mum and i remember she got depressed due to a medical abortion. they are too fucking dumb to use birth control and i dont know if she would be mentally able to to another abortion and with 46 she is just too old to get another little baby. im so angry and i just want to punch everything into little pieces.
Hun, I want you to know a few things: YOUR PARENTS ARE FUCKED UP, first and foremost. Secondly, you have the power to change yours and your brother’s life with the right catalyst. And thirdly, I count at least three criminals acts they could be charged with.
I have so much to say about this and it can all be summed up with: “GIVE ME A PLANE TICKET AND LET ME FILL A SACK WITH TOOLS FROM MY MACHINE SHOP ‘CAUSE I HAVE WORK TO DO” or just vague ranty and angry noises.
It goes with out saying that trying to kill yourself is bad and doing so over as worthless pieces of scum your parents are is not worth it. Don’t kill yourself over people that are not even worth the time of day. BUT, trying to kill yourself AND your brother? NO. You can’t make that sort of decision for him and that is murder. That is wrong and murder and wrong. I know it seems like the best thing for your brother (and you), but you can’t take away his life like that. Even though you guys are in just a … unspeakably bad situation, YOU can’t make the decision to take away an entire life
At anyrate here is mine and Drone’s advice: CALL THE POLICE IMMEDIATELY. What they are doing is straight up child abuse. What they are doing is also child endangerment. And to top it off, they have drug use/possession. So that is at least three different charges they can be brought up on and I really really doubt that anybody worth their salt or hell, even with a fourth of a brain will realise that you two can NOT be in that house and take you out of it.
You said you were planning on moving in September? Why not do it sooner? I know you only have a job interview right now, but as soon as you have it and it’s feasible I highly suggest you move out.
I also suggest that you don’t bother approaching your parents with things such as the interview. I don’t know them and I don’t know how they’ve treated you over the years, but I know enough to say that /you/ should have guessed what their reaction would have been. What led you to believe that they would even care, much less say, that they are happy or proud that you’ve had an interview and such? To me, you should have counted on dismissal or a wholly negative reaction.
That’s not to say I blame you for trying. I mean, who doesn’t want parental approval or some sort of kind word said about an achievement? It’s beyond fucked up the way they react to things.
So yeah. Please please PLEASE call the police ASAP. Just do it. Tell them you are being abused, your parents drink and do drugs, and that there is a five year old child in the house and they don’t care for him, etc. Tell them EVERYTHING you can.
And no matter how this turns out: cast them from your life. Walk away. Ignore them. Never say a thing to them again. They are not worth your time nor the amount of effort you put into talking about them. They are worth a second of your life.
sorry but please take a look at your grammar next time because it’s sometimes hard to understand for me. okay? thank you :)
so. you love her, right? You want her to be save, right? Then please watch that she gets professional help as soon as possible. Maybe make her call a crisis hotline. And hell, even if she needs to go inpatient it IS helping since they can make sure she is save there.
also even though her friend “only” scratches
(which still is a form of self harm and not to judge) herself, you should talk to her too.
And “just a down” is not a girlfriend threatening to suicide or doing hard drugs. Please. Make. Sure. She. Gets. Help.
Ultimatums suck so much and destroy everything. So please think about your relationship again. If he makes you cry more than laugh- overthink. Really.
Write down everything that is triggering you and makes you feel bad. And feel free to look through our help page
Oh gosh no just no.
Please tell her parents ASAP. About the suicide plan AND the drugs. And then, really, overthink your relationship.
There is nothing worse than having a toxic relationship. Threatenings are one of the signs for a toxic relationship. When she is making you feel in any way bad, leave her. Seriously.
So please tell her parents or someone who can have an eye on her and discuss about your relationship again.
Leaving a suicidal person doesnt make you bad. You should not forget that you have to care about yourself too.
Days clean does not mean that you’ve gotten better really. Emotions, thoughts, and intensity of your mental illness will ebb and spike at varrying times, so don’t assume just becuase you’ve managed to not self harm for a few months that you are completely out of the woods yet. Though, that IS an accomplishment so I hope you are proud of yourself, especially if you’ve been having worse urges and not acting on them. It’s tough and if you are managing it, you are doing really fantastically on that front.
I know you are scared, but you need to try talking to her again. A lot of the time, it’s overwhelming for parents and they react… less than perfect the first time they hear about self harming or mental illness, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t keep trying.
Try talking to other people, too. Talk to a councillor, call a doctor personally, etc. But keep trying to get somebody to listen and talk to you.
As for figuring out what to say, write a list! And take that list with you. Sometimes reading what you’ve written previous is so much easier than trying to figure it or remember what you wanted to say on the spot.
It really depends, tho
If this is normalmor not can only tell you a professional
I can’t say. Some people are more or less emotional than others. Personally, I’m the type that somebody that has to be VERY close to me for me to feel sad or grieve their death. Sad films and media are just eh to me and I “know” it’s all very sad, but I don’t get upset of them, ya know what I mean?
As for the laughing, I can’t blame you, some of the ways they kill off characters is so damned amusing, even if it wasn’t intended to be.
The best I can tell you is that if you think this is a real issue, then see a psychologist about it. Only they can say if it’s a serious problem or a symptom of something.
Me (Devin), Chi, Adrienne, Melody, and occasionally Drone.
found this gem in the 1996 Cornell Women’s Handbook. it’s what to say when a guy tries to get out of using a condom
To be honest. I would better talk to a mental health professional about that and get professional help instead of your driving teacher who probably doesnt know how to react to it and wont be able to do anything against it